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Communication and self-analysis
Sep. 28th, 2012 09:13 amI've been looking at my self a lot in the last few days.
One thing I've noticed, when I look at it from the outside, it that I take it as normal to ask for permission to speak.
That is to say: socially, I'll stand near a conversation until I'm invited in. Online, I'll make an opening statement and wait for someone to express an interest.
I didn't even think about this for a while. It seemed normal. I can back it up to its origins - family, high school Butting into conversations got one mocked. I do not like being mocked.
(I don't even really like being teased. I don't have a very clear line between those two things)
But what I don't know is if I'm old and missed the boat on online etiquette, if I'm broken and this was never normal anywhere, or if I just end up talking to people who read a different playbook than I did. This habit serves me well in meat-space. I'm just not sure about it either for my mental well-being overall, or about its efficacy in digital space.
One thing I've noticed, when I look at it from the outside, it that I take it as normal to ask for permission to speak.
That is to say: socially, I'll stand near a conversation until I'm invited in. Online, I'll make an opening statement and wait for someone to express an interest.
I didn't even think about this for a while. It seemed normal. I can back it up to its origins - family, high school Butting into conversations got one mocked. I do not like being mocked.
(I don't even really like being teased. I don't have a very clear line between those two things)
But what I don't know is if I'm old and missed the boat on online etiquette, if I'm broken and this was never normal anywhere, or if I just end up talking to people who read a different playbook than I did. This habit serves me well in meat-space. I'm just not sure about it either for my mental well-being overall, or about its efficacy in digital space.
